Some days, most days, I coast through. I rely on the repetition and schedule to remind me what is due. For example, on Saturdays I clean the house. Each night I pack my kids lunches. I rely on the key holder beside the front door to remember where my keys are. However, rarely do I rely on myself to set the tone for the day. I was more reactive then proactive. It was getting harder and harder to Stay Charged Each Day.
There will be times things get so hectic that I am spinning before I remember I have any say over my life. Sometimes, things have to get so unbearable that I decide to revisit my options to organize my thoughts and schedule.
Being in control of my thoughts is what I have the most control over, which explains how they get away from me. When trying to get through the chaotic demands of the day, my thoughts were usually the first thing I sacrificed.
I needed to Stay Charged Each Day (for myself and my family).
Much like most busy people, we tend to neglect an exercise regimen. Then, we begin to feel rundown. We start to push back. That might look like eating better, squeezing in a walk, or cutting out that extra cup of Joe.
I’ve never understood this sacrifice of self to be more than a bandwidth issue. At first I was angry. Where is all my energy? Then after accessing the situation, I realized I had reallocated it to get through the day and ended up neglecting myself.
Band witch is described in the dictionary as the energy or mental capacity required to deal with a situation.
Sites are available to access your electrons bandwidth. To troubleshoot the “drag” on your power supply. So how was I any different?
I’m not saying we’re machines; we can run like them trying to meet life’s demands.
I needed to do an assessment of my power drain and recalibrate my system.
My system could mean my mental state, schedule, diet, goals, etcetera.
My point is: I was lacking a routine that regularly monitored my operations and returned an assessment. Optimally, when I was having a bad day I would receive an “off-line” error. At this point, if I am in good shape, I would return to issue and reset. Much like when you’ve lost a network connection. Once you realize you connection is not working, you first check your internet connection.
Then you reboot or recharge, but you Stay Charged Each Day.
What I was wanting to learn was how to keep the system up and working. I wanted to keep things in good working order. Not after the break, but to avoid the break as much as possible.
Then comes the second analogy. You take your car in for regular maintenance to avoid a breakdown. I wanted to find a way to do the maintenance and avoid the breakdowns.
Everyone knows pain is a great motivator. Consequently, the pain had become to frequent. The disconnect too often. My batteries were dying before I could recharge.
Which brings me to the point.
I had to change before the abuse of my mind and body became more then the system could recover.
I wanted to Stay Charged Each Day.
So I Start each day with a quick five-point assessment.
- Where am I on a scale of one to ten.
- Am I “connected” to the important people in my life?
- Am I adequately charged for my day? (e.g., allocated sleep time, snacks and breaks)
- Do I have time or a way to recharge should I become low on energy? (e.g., I have two 15 min. slots to move around)
- Do I want to repeat the experience of this day? (e.g., overcommitted, etc.)
Then a two-point diagnostics:
- What was right about today?
- What went wrong with the day?
Finally, what could I have done better?
In step one, did I fall where I wanted to be? Why or why not? If I answer no to question two I start to make a plan to reinforce that connection. Adequately charging for the day has become more and more important as I age (and grow my family). Four can simply be preparation, like snacks or eliminating coffee/tea late in the day. If the answer is yes to number five, I try to capture as much as I can about the good. I do the same for a no.
The two-point diagnostic is really more of the same. Assessing what I got right and what went wrong, which can be more frequent with four children!
If you get the “feeling” you are offline, you probably are.
You’ve probably allocated some bandwidth (energy) for another situation and you just need to pull that energy back.
Follow the steps above to troubleshoot your undesired results. Implement the appropriate solutions and stay connected to what is working. Reviewing what is and is not working will also help with future pitfalls.
Also check out the web for other Ways to Boost Your Energy.
If you are feeling emotionally bogged down, Happier, is one of my favorite practices to help free up some energy!
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