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I Hate My Hair – 1 Step to End Your Frustration

People ask me about my hair all the time.  What they don’t see (and my family has had to deal with) is all the time it took me to figure out how to keep it in check.

I am here to help you stop spinning your wheels with the perpetual searching for the right products and end your frustration by showing you how to determine your hair type and understand how to treat it properly.  You’ll stop thinking, I hate my hair and give you 1 step to end your frustration.

The best way to read this post if you are in a hurry is: 1) read the first couple bulleted characteristics of hair types to get a general idea, 2) complete a quick hair stand testand then 3) move to treatments.

This is my own experience and the steps below helped me stop hating my hair. 

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Continue reading if you thinking any of the following:

  • I hate my hair (and I’ll give you 1 step to end your frustration).
  • No matter how much money you spend your hair doesn’t cooperate.
  • If I ask you what your hair porosity type is you don’t know (or haven’t heard of porosity hair types).
  • Constant state of buying products and failing to achieve healthy looking hair is perpetual.

Listen everyone hates their hair when they don’t get it.  Guaranteed.

Guarantee number two: the person giving you hair advice does not understand your hair either or you wouldn’t still be frustrated.

I Hate My Hair1 Step to End Your Frustration: TESTING YOUR HAIR TYPE

This is a small amount of time to improve the rest of your hairs life.

So, is your hair low, high or normal porosity?  Let’s do a test to find out.

  1. How to test your hair type
  2. Understanding your hair type
  3. Figuring out how to improve your hair according to its type (e.g., when to apply product, what type of products to use)

There are two easy, unscientific home methods to determine your hair type.  One is with water and the other is feeling the hair strand.  These test should be done on clean, dry hair. 

Note: hair with product will not test accurately.


The water test can be done two different ways:. Here are the option steps: 1) float test or 2) spray bottle test.  

You can wash your hair, pull the strand and style your hair as usual if you want to do the test after the pulled strands dry. 

For the float test you will need a clear glass and water.  Use a water bottle with water and something to isolate the hair (e.g., rubber band/clips) for the second test. 

Note: Use room temperature water because, cold water closes the cuticle.


  • Fill a clear glass with water about half way.
  • Pull out a couple strand of clean hair.
  • Test for three outcomes with in 2-4 minutes if the hair.


SINKS = high porosity

FLOATS after several minutes = low porosity (hair with oil on it will make it float) and

SINKS SLOWLY = normal porosity


  • Isolate some hair with a rubber band and pull the other hair out of the way.
  • Spray the isolated, clean hair, with room temperature water – just a mist, not saturate.
  • Look for one of three outcomes.

QUICK ABSORPTION = high porosity

WATER BEADS UP/Sits on Top = low porosity

SITS ONTOP OF HAIR for several minutes and absorbs = normal porosity


This is a matter of using your fingers as your eyes to exam the hair.  This test works best for low/high porosity hair types.

  • Grab some strands of hair
  • Slide the hair between your fingers from end to root

NOT SMOOTH/BUMPY = high porosity

SMOOTH = low porosity

I Hate My Hair – 1 Step to End Your Frustration: POROSITY HAIR TYPES

Porosity hair types determine how your hair absorbs/retains moisture and effects your hairs interaction with products.  Knowing your hair porosity type can help you better understand how to treat your hair and for how long.

Most importantly, you’ll stop thinking hate my hair (and get your 1 step to end your frustration).


  • People often refer to this hair type as a “ratty” looking (no offense to rats of course), straw like, or dry/brittle.
  • Takes a long time to dry, no matter the length.
  • Water “sits” on the cuticle longer then most types.
  • Products are not easily absorbed into the hair.
  • Scalp may be dry and/or oily; not normal.
  • May look good, but lacks volume/bounce and loses the effects of a curling iron easily.
  • May not have dandruff, but your hair/scalp feel dirty.
  • Nothing in the natural hair care community works for your hair.


  • Tangles easily.
  • Dries fast.
  • Feels and looks extremely dry/damaged.
  • Attracts moisture, but can’t hold onto it.
  • Often referred to as frizzy/split.


  • Does not struggle with moisture.
  • Looks healthy/”alive” and has bounce/volume and shine.
  • Generally provokes envy in people with low/high porosity hair.


Okay, moving on…

Now that you are armed with some data, let’s get into the how!  How do you treat your hair type?

I Hate My Hair1 Step to End Your Frustration: POROSITY TYPE TREATMENTS

Because your hair absorbs moisture in a certain way it is going to react to products and processes in a specific fashion too.  For all hair types I recommend regular deep conditioning, air drying 75-80% of your hair before blow drying whenever possible, only using a hair pick/wide tooth comb on wet hair and limit how often you wash your hair  – utilizing dry shampoos when possible.


This cuticle is flat and tight and has trouble absorbing moisture, but does not have the damaged cuticle of high porosity hair. 

Your challenge is to open the cuticle to get product in.  

Think of a manicure.  Generally, a nail technician will soak your hands in warm/hot water before pushing your cuticles back. 

You want to open your hair up with heat so the product can get in.

  • Treat your hair weekly with a hair mask.  Let sit for 15-30 minutes. Then shampoo and condition as usual.  Your results will be more effective if the treatments are combined with a hot towel, shower cap, or using a hair dryer.  You don’t have to use a dryer.  You can use hot oil treatments; I avoid them because of the hair coloring products I use.
  • Use light products like argan, grapeseed or nan (review) oil for flyaways.
  • Avoid build up to eliminate barriers to moisture.  That might look like periodically using an apple cider vinegar (ACV) treatment to help close the cuticle, which is temporary, or clarifying shampoo.  Use a good conditioner after any clarifying process.
  • Avoid products with low pH (acid), a-lot of proteins and thick products that are hard to absorb.
  • Use a Microfiber towel/t-shirt instead of cotton towels.
  • Use rice water rinses – the benefits are vast!


The damage is done and you need to proceed accordingly. 

Challenge: get the hair cuticles to lay down and stop being pissed off. 

High porosity cuticle layers are dry, cracking and peeling, which leads to them to break away.  Protein is your friend. 

Figuring this out ends the hate my hair convo (and gives you more then 1 step to end your frustration).

Good practices for this hair type is to wash/clarify in sections, deep condition, moisturize and seal before styling.  Keep the Liquid, Oil, Cream (LOC) steps in mind.

  • Egg washes have awesome protein benefits and help slow down cuticle damage.  Moderation is the key with anything, so don’t go crazy or your hair will become stiff and susceptible to breakage.
  • Apple cider vinegar (ACV) and aloe vera help balance the pH balance of high porosity hair.
  • Coconut oil as a prewash, before your regular shampoo and conditioning routine, will help limit the hair shaft from swelling.  Rinse with cold water to seal the cuticle and reduce frizz, which is good for all hair types.
  • Seal your hair with oils to hold onto moisture and avoid breakage using oils like: argan, almond, olive and jojoba.
  • Use heavy water based creams and leave-in products and help reduce your hair from grabbing moisture in the air.
  • Consider co-washing.
  • Best to air dry whenever possible and use a microfiber towel/t-shirt.


Little will be covered on this hair type.  Normal porosity is not guaranteed over the life of your hair. 

Preventative maintenance is just as important for this hair type to keep low/high porosity hair at bay. 

Just like with all porosity hair types, hair coloring, ultra violet light, aging and clarifying techniques will tax your hair.

  • Regularly use deep conditioning treatments, especially after a hair coloring or using clarifying shampoos.
  • Limit repeated damage with flat irons and other heat tools.
  • Don’t over wash/wash hair every two to three days and use dry shampoo when possible.

These are the best practices for the applicable hair types to keep them healthy and happy. 

And if you are anything like me, I am a visual learner.  Below are some great tutorials and tips from YouTube, so be sure to check them out at your leisure!

I Hate My Hair1 Step to End Your Frustration: POROSITY HAIR TYPES: HAIR VIDEO TUTORIALS

My Low Porosity Hair Routine (mine)

Elle Bangs (just going to link her whole rabbit hole)

Bouncy Natural Curl Routine (my fav)

Perm Rod Tutorial (Part 1)

How to Get BIG Straight Hair (Texas Hair Peeplze)

Curl Talk (bear with the quality; great tips)

Flexi Rod Set on Natural Hair (Part 1)

Natural Curly Hair Washing & Styling Tutorial

Wand Curls Hair Tutorial

Hair Romance

That’s it.  Hopefully you are not in a panic after some serious hair faux pas and can read this enjoyably.  If that is not the case, I hope you have found some useful tips to understand your hair type and treat it accordingly! 

You might also enjoy my best tips for best DIY hair color.

After learning I had low porosity hair, I started treating it much differently and the results came. 


I now know how to handle my hair and a few things to keep it happy and healthy.

  • Tricks to strip stubborn purple toner from hair (comment below to hear more).
  • Hair color generally doesn’t develop on my hair as quickly as others.
  • What bleach to use with my hair type.
  • How to use the LOC system above and what products work best on my hair. 

I attack my hair with curiosity instead of chasing closure.  That is what I want for you too.  If you did not find the answers you needed here, let me know! 

The only dumb question is the unasked one.

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