So many people have money issues in relationships/money problems in a marriage. These money issues are so strong and so powerful they can cause you to search for any solution, no matter how damaging. Money problems can cause relationship doubts with your partner, and worse, with yourself. What if I told you that you could Improve Your Relationship with Money? That you didn’t have to end up on some dark night alone, drunk, behind the wheel of a fast car with your kid riding shotgun.
Yes, it is that scary.
How about you just give me $.01 for each person I meet that is livng with way less cash then they want to. We’d all be rich! If you are anything like me, you’re probably thinking when am I going to make it already? Can’t you just think your way out of this bank account with tumble weeds blowing through it.
Your inner bitch yelling to you constantly, yo, when are you going to get some money in this hole? Better yet, when will the scarcity bull shit stop. Feast or famine continues. Check.
Do you remember as a kid hating a certain food? For me that was sushi. Then one day I tried it.
I’m not entirely sure why; here I was popping a Philadelphia roll in my mouth.
It was delicious! What was wrong with me?
Why haven’t I been eating this my whole life?
That is the transformation of money.
Let’s be frank. We all want money; it’s so taboo. Being happy about money is like openly talking about liking sex. It’s okay it private, but we’re total jerks for not wanting to share too.
Because as a kid, you were shamed for not wanting to share.
Remember, “share the toy with Susie.”
(Let me just apologize in advance to Susie right now.)
Like somehow you shouldn’t want the toy more then her, burden your parents play date or make Susie feel lack.
Bro, Susie not my problem; somehow adults came to make you believe she was. And I carried that full on into adulthood.
Play nice, share.
You don’t need that toy, Susie does.
Give it to her (even if you don’t want to)!
I don’t want to.
If anything, this Susie chic needs to get lost and find her own shit.
What does this have to do with how you can Improve Your Relationship with Money?
You have to understand what makes you tick. What exactly is going to get you out of your none stop financial replay.
Do your truths fit into who you are trying to become or are they outdated tastebuds and playdates with people and food you really don’t like?
Improve Your Relationship with Money (IYRM)
IYRM is simply a program to generate learning around money through books, courses, challenges, seminars or paradigm shifts that bring you out of a continual cycle that no longer suits you.
You’re growing up financially and you need big-girl panties that fit.
When you come across a IYRM post in our Money Series, you will find ways to align yourself with a healthy and abundant financial life.
One that you can have. I bet you cringed a little bit reading that.
Of course, some posts will be merely some elevated thinking, others will mean getting uncomfortable.
I’m talking about why did I put off eating sushi for so long type of uncomfortable not losing control of your life.
The mindset is still real and broaching it can be difficult to overcome.
We all know I could have went the rest of my life without eating sushi. If you believe sushi is going to be awful it’s going to be damn hard to convince you otherwise. Or just eating your vegetables. Some people never do because, their tastebuds never catch up with their mothers point of their benefits.
Improving your relationship with money is meant to provide clues that will help you flex that financial muscle that you did not think you had. To build stairs and bridges to your right to pursue happiness.
Yes, money cannot buy you happiness.
Remember, broke can’t buy shit.
The resources found in this Money Series should also lift you out of your ruts and get you into the financial “fast” lane. Yes, just like speed is your friend when you balance a bike, money is your friend when you are living a life you want.
Seriously, a blinker is an indicator, not a request, so let ’em know you’re coming over and don’t be apologetic about it.
No one has anymore right to be in that lane then you.
Where to start you ask?
I can tell you when you ask where or why the how will show up.
What do I mean?
I had many “clues” about how to shift my views about money. Some of them were very obvious, like You Are a Badass at Making Money book suggestions in a couple different Facebook groups I belonged to. Others were less obvious and way more involved, like starting this blog of mine, Domesticating Scout.
My goal is to help you eliminate unhelpful thinking in regards to money (e.g., money blocks) and identify what ways will Improve Your Relationship with Money.
Money blocks are different for each person.
Even if you are not on board immediately, think of it as a veggie. You were never a huge fan of them, but with a little tweaking, you can make them taste delicious, especially with a little cheese. What? No cheese? No fat. You’re on a diet? Boom, let’s get to the Keto diet = low car/high fat (and how I lost 20 pounds in four weeks – true story).
The point is you learn, you evolve, and find ways to improve your situation through learning.
Money can and will be an adventure, not some kind of closure.
You will find tools to help Improve Your Relationship with Money and get where you want to be financially. Not where Susie or your parents think you should be, but where you want to be.
See you there.
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